1. You constantly second-guess yourself.

2. You wonder, “Am I being too sensitive?” a dozen times a day.

3. You wonder frequently if you are a “good enough” girlfriend/wife/employee/friend/daughter.

4. You have trouble making simple decisions.

5. You think twice before bringing up innocent topics of conversation.

6. You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.

7. Before your partner comes home from work, you run through a checklist in your head to anticipate anything you might have done wrong that day.

8. You buy clothes for yourself, furnishings for your apartment, or other personal purchases thinking about what your partner would like instead of what would make you feel great.

9. You actually start to enjoy the constant criticism, because you think, “What doesn’t kill me will make me stronger.”

10. You start speaking to your husband through his secretary so you don’t have to tell him things you’re afraid might upset him.

11. You start lying to avoid the put-downs and reality twists.

12. You feel as though you can’t do anything right.

13. You frequently wonder if you’re good enough for your lover.

14. Your kids start trying to protect you from being humiliated by your partner.

15. You feel hopeless and joyless.